There’s an amazing bakery just around the corner from my place. They have a mix of everything from French delicacies to Moroccan treats. I visit it at least once a week.
One day while eyeing a chocolate croissant the size of my fist, a new face greeted me from behind the counter. A few minutes later I was struggling trying to follow the conversation. My limited language and confused look were met with a warm smile and laughter. Before leaving we had exchanged names and phone numbers; Nadia and I were now friends.
A few days later I found myself having lunch in her home with her mom, aunt, uncle, and brothers. As the guest I was treated to an amazing meal, the famous Moroccan couscous and veggies, sweet nectarines for dessert, followed by the traditional mint tea. The afternoon passed with fun and conversation as I learned more about my new friend and her family. Before I knew it, it was tea time.
Still full from our late lunch I was not prepared for the vast display of goodies to cover the table: fresh bread with jam, honey, olive oil, dates, dried figs, warm melowi and hersha (popular flatbreads great with honey or jam), and of course more sugary sweet mint tea. Finally, after numerous goodbyes I hopped on the bus back home, exhausted and very full.
Understanding Moroccan Hospitality
Moroccans pride themselves on their hospitality. While it may seem strange to share a meal together with family and friends after a brief encounter at a bakery, here this is common. A home cooked meal or offering of tea are ways of honoring and welcoming a visitor. Even the placement of the new addition around the table is considered, always tucked snugly in the center, the place of honor.
I am no stranger to good ole ‘Southern hospitality,’ and yet when my family had a guest or special occasion it was more often celebrated outside the home, visiting a nice restaurant on a birthday or graduation. In many instances joining a meal at home was considered much more casual or familiar.
Get ready for some blurred personal boundaries
For many coming from Western cultures Moroccan hospitality and the process of getting to know neighbors, colleagues, and new friends can be a bit overwhelming. When home is a refuge after a long day at the office, this open door policy into life and home may be a bit of a challenge.
Learning to embrace this culture may possibly involve tearing down walls and loosening a bit of control. Yet, in the process you will find a warm welcome and honest insight into the Moroccan world.
Not to mention the new friendships that will take you deeper into the culture, help navigate each new turn, and offer a truer glimpse no guidebook could give.
